I have the privilege of meeting with many different kinds of people. My clients, both men and women, range in age from 15 to 75 and can only be described as an eclectic group. I designed my practice this way, and I have to tell you that, from a certain perspective, it was a selfish act. See, in addition to helping my clients, working side-by-side with them to create inspired lives, I also wanted to learn everything I possibly could.
I have not been disappointed. Sitting down with a person, listening to him or her describe life, both struggles and triumphs, has and is teaching me more about human potential than a million hours of reading or research.
Admittedly, my clients are unusual. They have a clear (except when they don’t) agenda when they walk through my door. They are not coming just for the conversation; that would be pretty expensive conversation, relatively speaking.
People come to coaching because they want things to be different. They are looking for change or they have important goals to reach. People come to coaching for lots of individual reasons. They are motivated to achieve specific goals: to write a book, to start a business, to have a healthier body. They come to coaching in an effort to be more effective or more satisfied at work. They hire me because they want to create more order and balance in their lives.
Sometimes, people want more from life — more peace of mind, more simplicity, and more joy — and sometimes they want less confusion, less stress, less financial pressure. In general, they come to coaching because they want a better quality of life — increased fulfillment, better balance — or a different process for accomplishing their life desires.
This is where the work begins for them and me because delivering value and creating change is one of the hardest things a person can do. It is not for sissies, that’s for sure. It’s not impossible; it’s improbable. Why? I have a few ideas, but it really doesn’t matter what I think; it is about what my clients think.
My job is not to show a client what to do; in fact, sometimes I think the obsession with what to do has taken over our lives. IT IS NOT ABOUT WHAT TO DO, it is about KNOWING AND DOING WHAT WE BELIEVE — MAKING A DECLARATION AND COMMITMENT ABOUT WHAT WE WILL DO WITH OUR LIVES, OUR YEARS, MONTHS, AND DAYs — AND FROM THAT MOMENT FORWARD, GO ABOUT CREATING IT.
Here is a good example of the kind of conviction and belief that is necessary to create inspired change. I was struck with the enormity of the swim Diana Nyad successfully completed from Cuba to Florida recently. She was 63 years old at the time, and after four other unsuccessful attempts spanning 30+ years, was able to do something no one has ever been able to do before. But her strength didn’t come from what she did or her unique physical talents (although she has many), it came from an absolute total conviction or belief that she could and would. I would suggest you take a few minutes and watch the following video (Diana Nyad: Extreme swimming with the world’s most dangerous jellyfish). Listen for her belief, just months after she failed, declaring what she was going to do. She said, “I can swim from Cuba to Florida. I will swim from Cuba to Florida.” Didn’t leave much wiggle room, did she? And, of course, several months later, did what she set out to do.
So let me ask you: What do you believe you are capable of? Are you performing at your full potential? Do your day-to-day choices and existence match-up with your beliefs and commitment?
If you’re serious about living a life in which you have no regrets, one in which you give it everything you have, a life without wiggle room so to speak, concentrate on what you believe, your personal convictions and commitments. The doing will take care of itself (after it kicks your ass… lol).