Working with clients to develop more self-control is one of the major goals of almost all coaching relationships. It is not only an extremely important virtue but also the most important skill someone can bring to bear on goal accomplishment or achievement. Another way to say this is that self-control, or will power, is one of the qualities that must be present if someone is going to succeed on any regular basis.
One of the statements that was instrumental in my choice to start coaching and go back to school was by W. Timothy Gallwey in his book The Inner Game of Tennis. It essentially suggested that knowing what to do was not the problem for most endeavors. You certainly need to have skills, experience, and knowledge to be successful, but the real and more common problem is getting yourself to do what you already know. In other words, you have to show up and keep at it for there to be a successful result. Repeatedly, I saw myself and others fail at goals and tasks by giving up or running out of steam…another way to say it is that I “lacked the will power to do the things I knew needed to be done.” I did not need to be told what to do; I just needed to do it. Seems simple enough, right?