From the moment that we’re born, we learn to expect certain outcomes as a result of our actions. When we cry, Mom or Dad comes to our aid to figure out the problem. The expectation is that a cause (crying) will elicit an effect (the arrival of a caregiver). This cause-and-effect system persists in our lives, and mostly for good reason. It’s how we build our lives for normalcy, to make sense of the world. But what happens when the reality of the situation doesn’t meet with our expectations? It can be blinding, even debilitating, and make us question everything we’ve known until then.